A Reminder That You Don't Have To Follow The Norm

Grab a cuppa people, it's about to get deep.

IT'S OK. It's ok to be working in a 9-5 job, it's ok to buy a Starbucks every day of the week, hell, it's ok to not have a diet that includes avocados. What are we like eh? We grow up thinking that we need to live this perfect life, go through the stages that most people go through (school, university, work, marriage, kids, retirement) but what if we don't want to do all of that? Are we a bad person? Nu uh. What if we do want exactly that? Fabulouso.

With everyone glued to their phones, we're constantly absorbing everybody else's chapters and we often forget that not everyone else's chapter will happen at the same time for you - if ever. 

Embrace your talents. If you have a passion from an early age, which doesn't necessarily fit the 'norm', who gives a donkey - work your butt off to make it work. So many people are put off by particular job roles, an illustrator or a writer, for example, may be told they will never be successful but there are SO many inspirational artists out there absolutely bossing it.

Haters gunna hate. No matter what you do in life, there will always be one person who will turn their nose up at what you are doing. If you don't have a conventional job for example, or you post about your sex life online, have a degree in The Beatles (that's seriously a thing!) and so on, you're considered to be breaking from the 'norm'. Hold on to the positive people in your life, they're what counts. 

Don't settle, you can leave something at any time. Your job. Your relationship. The country. I think sometimes we have to be reminded that you are not stuck in life, you have so many opportunities just waiting for you. Sometimes relationships don't work out, that's ok, you shouldn't feel a social pressure to stay with that person. Marriage for example is a social construction, and if it isn't for you, tell your mum to stop telling you to put a damn ring on it. If you hate your job, quit. If you want to experience a new culture, move, travel, explore. Nobody is stopping you!

Don't rush. If you do want to go to university or buy a home, don't feel like you need to rush into anything. You could go to university at any time of your life.

Comparison really is the thief of joy, and the pressures that constantly surround us can be tough but one thing is for sure - you need to stick to your gut.

Don't forget. Be yourself, don't feel like you have to follow the crowd (unless you're really digging that new copper trend... obvs) and continue to do what you love.

Also, how cute is my cactus notebook? Thank you Anna for this Christmas treat, I can't wait to start organising my 2017 plans in it! The Daniel Wellington Classic Black Sheffield watch and rose gold cuff* featured in the image is a combo I am totally obsessed with right now. You can get 15% off your order with the code 'JANUARY' if you fancy a little extra Christmas gift to yourself!

I'd love to know your thoughts on living a life when these 'norms' constantly surround us.

Hannah x

*This post contains gifted items and all rambling thoughts are my own!


  1. Yes yes & yes to everything you said! thank you for writing and sharing this! I wish more people realised that life isn't about doing what's considered as normal or what everyone else is doing. I mean I'm only eighteen and I don't have that much life experience yet but what I do know is that I'll always listen to myself when it comes to life decisions. I've always wanted to be a writer and I won't let anyone tell me it's not realistic or whatever. I hope you'll get everything you want from life, much love for you & for this post x


  2. This was a really interesting post and has certainly got me thinking! For me it's about following 'the norm' for my career. There's a pretty set pathway that it's easy to just blindly force yourself along, but the past few weeks I've been thinking about whether it's really what I want to do. I'm realising that I don't have to follow the normal pattern and can decide instead to work towards what I actually enjoy.
    Jennifer x
    Ginevrella | Lifestyle Blog

  3. Love the message in this! And yay for the notebook!! I KNEW it would be great for flatlay potential ;) xx

  4. A big massive YES! I couldn't agree more with you and it's amazing you share the same thought. Our society turned into something really nasty where every action is either judged or praised for no reason. People are so used to comment on everything, it's actually hard to know when it's genuine. I've realized over the past few years that people mostly criticize what they don't understand. I'm a blogger and graphic designer, I'm rocking it and I'm a girl. Tell that to a guy who was born in the 30s with the mindset that goes with it.

    Let's be our own judge and do what we want, we only live once! x

    Jessica — NinetyCo 

  5. YES YES YES! I've been going with what everyone does for far too long and decided for myself that 2017 NEEDS to be different. You're so right with everything you're saying in this post! Thanks for sharing :)

    Love, Kerstin

  6. I love this post so much and I couldn't agree more! It's so much more interesting to live a lift that is true to you xxx
    Sophie Cliff

  7. What a positive post this is! It's well worth the reminder once in a while, so thanks for that. And I suspect what you've written will really help a few people to take a step back and question what they want and why they want it; so what a good deed you've done! :)

    Also, you've mentioned one of my favourite life lessons, ever - "comparison is the thief of joy". I don't know who said it, but it's a teaching that's been guiding me for the last few years and I've really never been happier! :)


  8. You're so right!! You don't have to follow the 'norm' of what society expects to be doing from such age or such stage within your life. It's totally ok to go at your own pace and do your own thing. Great post and definitely think it's going to help make a lot of people feel better about their own journeys xx

    Lauren | itslaurenvictoria.blogspot.co.uk

  9. AMEN.


  10. You're totally right, you just don't have to follow the norm and thats okay - and I think I need to keep being reminded of this. I decided whether or not I go off to uni this year, and I really need to think hard about it because is it really what I want to do?!

    Lucy | Forever September

  11. Just everything in this post.
    Thank you thank you thank you.
    Peta xx


  12. I love the "Don't Settle" part the most. I am going to leave my job in a matter of weeks now, and I am excited to venture down a new path. There are just some people who won't quit questioning my decision. Sometimes what they say sway me, but I won't let their opinions bother me, this is what I want and I'm not going to conform on what society tells me to! Great, great post Hannah! Love reading this one so much! Hope you have a great day! xx


  13. I really needed this post today. I've started working part time and all of a sudden I'm riddled with guilt that I should working full time hours and saving up a certain amount. It's ok to do me and do whatever makes me happy :)


  14. Loved reading this post!

    x Annabelle


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